The Adoption Report.


Despite the resentment of Sylvie having to toe the line, the social worker visits were duly carried out and the following report was produced for the purpose of the court and for a Judge to make a decision.

This is the report I now have in my possession;

“I have interviewed Mr and Mrs P in their home and they have confirmed that the statements made in their application are true and complete. They have been married since August 1953 and there have been three children born of the marriage. Mrs P’s illegitimate child Gina, aged 16, is also a member of the household. Both Mr and Mrs P appear to be in good health and medical certificates are attached to the application.

The applicants occupy a Corporation house, where the accommodation comprises four bedrooms, two reception rooms, kitchen and bathroom. They pay a rent of £3.2s.7d a week. The house is clean and comfortably furnished and Mrs P maintains a very high standard of housekeeping.

Mr P is employed by (Company name)  as a truck driver and his wages, with overtime, amount to about £20 per week. Mrs P does a small amount of outdoor work for hosiery firm and is paid on a pro-rata basis for this.

Child A is the illegitimate daughter of Pamela T of (Address) Mrs T has been interviewed and reaffirmed her consent and identified the attached birth certificate as that of her child. She is 21 years of age and since her marriage in March this year has not worked outside the home. She has consented to the adoption because she found that she could not manage to bring up A on her own. The putative father is said to be  Mr G, an American Airman who returned to the United States in February of this year. Mrs T associated with this man for a fairly long period of time and said that at one time they had hoped to marry. For a period of about five months from the date of A’s birth, Mrs T stated that Mr G gave her sums of money up to £4 a week towards her own and the child’s maintenance. This financial help ceased when the couple broke off their engagement and from approximately April 1966 until October of that year, Mrs T maintained the child on National Assistance.  At this time she felt that she could no longer carry on and she placed the child with the applicants whom she had previously known as friends of her sister. On several occasions prior to the placement, Mrs P had undertaken A’s care for an evening or weekend when Mrs T had wanted to go out. Mrs T states that Mr G was aware that she had placed A with Mr and Mrs P with a view to adoption and this statement was independently corroborated by Mrs P.  Mr G is reported to have said that since he now had no intention of marrying Mrs T, he thought that this was the best plan.

Child A was received into the care of the applicants on 3rd September 1966. The Welfare Authority was notified on the 14th December, 1966 and the probationary has been successfully completed. A satisfactory reference has been received from the referee named in the application, who is also the family general practitioner.

Child A has not yet been baptised, but the applicants intend to bring her up in the Church of England faith. She has been medically examined and serological test for syphilis taken with negative results.  A satisfactory medical certificate is attached to the application.

No financial inducement has been offered or accepted on either side. The infant has no right to or interest in any property. No insurance policy has been effected for payment on the death of the child of money for funeral expenses.

Mr and Mrs P are aware of the responsibilities they incur in the adoption and seem happy to undertake them. Mrs P said that she felt particularly concerned for A’s future when she knew that her mother could not keep her because she had been in precisely the same position herself as an unmarried mother. She feels very strongly for the plight of illegitimate children and is confident that she and her husband have the facilities to offer a child a good home and upbringing. Mrs T is, of course aware of A’s whereabouts and the risks of this to both parties has been discussed. I feel that it is in A’s best interests for the adoption order to be made”

Something that I was never informed of and was to learn of many years later was a visit made by Pam and her new husband to see me at Sylvie’s house. No doubt this was kept from me as it might have actually put Pam in a good light, given me some hope that she had wanted to see me, might have cared about me or even have wanted me returned to her.

Whether this visit was of her own undertaking or suggested by social services I do not know, but part of me hopes she had gone there seeking reassurances, wanting to be sure that I was ok and that she was doing the right thing.  Had her new husband considered taking me on, to become my step-father and in doing so change the course of my life?

Pam and  her new husband and would have been received the same ceremony as the social worker, reassuring them how fortunate I was. Having not seen Pam for some time I did not know her, would not go to her and cried when she tried to hold me, the exact opposite of when Sylvie or her daughters picked me up and I cooed and chuckled happily.

By the time Pam left the house, although upset, she had made her decision. She turned to her husband and simply said, “I have to leave her there, she’s in the right place.”


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